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Healing, Ministry

Do you have someone who is hard to love? Is there someone who you think just doesn’t like you or is hard to communicate with? Has there been someone who has hurt you in some way and your relationship isn’t quite the same? Well…let’s work on that!

12 gifts for the hard to love
Gift of love

We all have one…

I have all the above. I think if we’re honest we do too. This month is gift giving season, typically. But if your reading this and it isn’t December…than all the better! Because for this relationship which is somehow not right to be ok again… this concept needs to happen no matter what time of year.

Let’s first look at our own heart. The Lord says, “People judge by the outward appearances, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 

Isn’t this passage so true? Looking at this person who is hard to love. WHY? Why are they hard to love? How they act or speak to others? To us? How they choose to live? I am sure we can think of 12 ways one person has wronged us. This passage holds to this very thing. We are looking at the outside appearances, their life versus God created them and loves them and so must we. No matter what. So now the need to find 12 ways back to love instead of wronged.

Why try?

The same thing holds true to the one who hurt you.  The one who continues to ignore you or include you in their gatherings.  If we are a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ, we are to love…no matter what.  Remembering His 2 greatest commandments. “Love the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength…AND love your neighbor as yourself.”

SO…ready for an idea…one that may not work exactly the way you think but I guarantee will please the Lord. 

12 gift Ideas

12 gifts. You can do the 12 anyway you choose. Maybe it will be over a year, one gift a month, or all in 12 consecutive days. It doesn’t matter. Just commit to 12 gifts to this person.  Get your calendar, planner, or whatever you use and look at daily or weekly opportunities to mail or drop your gift.  Next write down 12 gifts this person may love. Food like those cute jars filled with something they can make. I love this because if they choose to make the item it will remind them of you and your relationship. Other ideas can be a card, bookmark, favorite DVD, CD, or movie tickets. Gardening seeds, teas or coffee, hot cocoa, lotions, and gift cards are wonderful little gestures of love. 

gifts for the hard to love
Do you need a great editing program for you pictures….I love this one!
12 gifts for the hard to love
Gingerbread Spiced Syrup…recipe below

In addition to every gift, include a note. You will need to go before the Lord and ask for wisdom to your wording. You want to be sensitive to whatever your relationship has been in the past as well as to why it is a-strange in the present.  Make it special. Fill your heart with love for them by asking the Lord to help you with your hurt or harden feelings. He loves prayers like this, because relationships are VERY important to Him.

Easy boxes filled with Elderberry syrup

What about after…

Lastly, after the 12 days and gifts have been given, if something has not already been sparked by the first one or two, again pray. “Why Lord has this person not responded? What do I need to do next? Help me to continue to love them and bring them to mind to lift to you.” I know from doing this very thing…God has healed. Whether it was during the gift giving time, or just in this prayer time. He answered. A hint of advice, don’t call them or if you see them don’t say ,”Hey did you get anything from me? Did you get the gifts I sent?” Why? Because by asking you are looking for something in return. Keep humble.

Broken relationships bring us to sinful actions. Gossip, talking bad about this person, rudeness, and unforgiveness.  Which all of these separates us from our Lord. If we want unity, if we call ourselves a loving person, than we must do our best to be Christ-like and reach out. If that person doesn’t respond, we pray for them and move on. 

Joy

 One thing can stand out when you do this activity. You can experience joy in the gift giving process making it special for this child of God and it provides an opportunity to pray for them.  There is nothing more joyful in our daily lives than bringing joy into another. We just never know what is going on in the hearts of others. But the Lord does. 

Let me know what happened

Let me know if you tried this. By your comments you could help another. I will be VERY anxious to see how it goes. In both situations so far I have done, it was misunderstandings in one and the other was facing a strong addiction. By reaching out helped heal and brought forgiveness in others in their personal lives. Amazing!

Share away!

Love deeper, talk sweeter,

Lee

Gingerbread Spiced Syrup recipe:

All products below I get from Starwest link on blog…

2 cinnamon sticks broken into pieces                12 cloves

3 tbsp fresh ginger root                                    1 tsp whole peppercorns

2 cups honey                                                       2 cups water

1 tsp fresh grated nutmeg

Directions:

Place the cinnamon, cloves, ginger root, peppercorns in a double thick cheese cloth and tie a knot to hold it all together. In a large sauce pan, add water and honey and bring to a boil. Add nutmeg and stir. Now put cheesecloth into the pot. Let sit for 5 minutes watching closely. Reduce heat and simmer for 45 minutes uncovered. Remove from heat. Take cheesecloth and squeeze out any juice collected using the back of a spoon. Serve some immediately and any remaining let cool and transfer into nice GLASS containers. Make a wonderful gift anytime of year! Keeps for one month in refrigerator.


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Healing, Hope

Mark 5:21-39

This bible passage is overwhelming me right now! It’s our son’s 20th and here is why.

Imagine Jairus, a leader of the local synagogue PLEADING with Jesus. A man whom all Jairus co-workers hated. Why was he pleading and pleading fervently my NLT states? Because his daughter was dyeing. He didn’t care what people thought. What consequences would come from him approaching Jesus. He just wanted his daughter well.

Have you ever been there? Have you ever gone before the holy throne Pleading fervently for some hope, answers, rescue?

We have. But sadly at the time I wasn’t a believer. I was only going through the motions. Church on Sunday, pray before meals, doing the church motions when needed, but no REAL relationship with Jesus.

Until I had a crisis. My child was dyeing. My child was in need of healing. I pleaded fervently, but sadly the bible states in John 9:31 “We know that God doesn’t listen to sinners, but He is ready to hear those who worship Him and do his will.”

I was a sinner. I am a sinner now. What is the difference to Him hearing my prayers now verses than? The Lord woke me up during that time. He used this crisis to draw myself closer to Him. He allowed this time of suffering for our son and us to say, “to Whom do you serve?” I was serving only me. No relationship with Jesus. Not admitting I needed a Savior. Not forgiving ones who hurt me or confessing I am nothing without Him.

Our son did get a miracle. He did survive. But I believe it was not because of my prayers. It was because of the many who were believers. The many who sat and pleated fervently before the Lord as they were worshipping Him and doing His will. Jesus says to Jairus, “don’t be afraid, just have faith.”

Faith is believing. Faith is not just doing the motion and never repenting. Going about our own ways not God’s ways. Choosing what is best for us, instead of asking the Lord what is best. That is clear sign of a person not doing God’s will.

Faith is encompassing His word and truth and allowing the truths to make you change not run away, get angry, or worse yet only take what “feels good”.

“Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see.” Hebrews 11:1. Another words, faith is trusting full heartily the Lord is in control of the situation and YOU and ME! Faith is letting God do HIS work, HIS way and our job is to let Him and repent.

Jesus healed the young girl just before He met Jairus’ need. Jesus asked for what from the girl? FAITH… that is what made her well.! Now look at what came next. This was huge to me. Jesus asked ONLY Peter, James, and John to go with Him. Not because they were special, but because they had FAITH and believed this girl was not dead and Jesus was in control. The crowds laughed. But in a few minutes only believers witnessed the miracle. She was asked by our Savior to get up and she did!

It is only by grace that it took another 3 years before I was reading my bible and the passage consumed my heart. “Not everyone who calls out to me, ‘Lord! Lord!’ will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of my Father in heaven will enter. 23 But I will reply, I never knew you. Get away from me, you who break God’s laws. It was at that moment I fell to my knees, and confessed, and cried out, “no more Jesus. I am yours. I repent of my selfish ways. Make me new, and change me.” THREE years AFTER the crisis. What took so long? PRIDE.

I am thankful to this day for 2 things. ONE that He used such a trial to wake me up. I do thank Him now and then for our son getting sick to the point of near death to save me. (another hard thing to do is thank the Lord for a trial, but realizing He will do something amazing in it)

TWO, for the believers who were praying for a miracle. It was their pleading fervently that the Lord heard. Not mine, not my husband (even though he met Jesus a week later in recovery that saved him. It didn’t take him 3 years) But believers.

I know this may seem hard to understand or even for some to be offended. But I believe the bible is true. The WHOLE bible even the parts that are hard to hear or read. The parts that make us realize who we are in Jesus eyes. A sinner, in need of a Savior! If you’re offended, I get it. I was there. It is good to be offended like the Pharisee’s were. BUT, don’t continue to be a Pharisee like in the passage in Matt. 7:21…You have the choice to change all of that.

Our son is 22 today. It has been 20 YEARS. He was given a second chance. WE ALL WERE! How amazing is our God!

God loves you!

Love deeper, talk sweeter and open your heart to where to go from here,

Lee

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