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Ministry, Ranch Life, The Boys

Asking vs. Telling

Who hates being told what to do? I sure do! From the time I can remember when someone told me to do something I resisted with all my soul. But when asked with a “suggestion” or “request” I was more apt to WANT to oblige.  Being asked to do something is always much better received than telling in any relationship, horse to human, and especially human to human.

Asking brings a much sweeter response to any relationship!

Patience is a Virtue

It’s funny how much I dislike math, more specifically, algebra! The old saying, “what you do to one side you have to do to the other.” Well, fancy that…the same is true in teaching a horse! Horses have an immature corpus callosum, which is the link between the two sides of the brain. So when I work with my horse and I teach on one side I must do the same to the other.  For example, when I ASK my horse to move his hind end on his right side, I must do the same on the other. Asking, get a response, receive a reward for even a try, back off, try again, and if he moves it over reward and love him up! Then do the same thing on the other side.  The same holds true for human relationships. This reminds me of the verse in John 16:12 when Jesus says to his disciples, “I still have many things to say to you, but you can not bear them now.”  I think about one example of when I am sharing the gospel or truth from His word with someone they may only be able to handle a little bit at a time and to hear the same thing again until received well.

Training is a special time

Being a Partner vs a Boss

Horses are herd animals meaning they always need another herd bound animal. They are not loners. We have two horses and when we are on a trail ride if one of us travels further away from the other they will begin to neigh at each other and even get a little pushy to want to go closer to their buddy. It is what is called “buddy sour”.  As much as we work on this we still struggle with gaining the partnership relationship vs getting bossier. If my horse knows I will keep him safe and am his partner in this relationship, he will respond in a way to show he doesn’t have to have his herd mate with him all the time. I don’t have to have a bossy way about my communication with him to keep him focused on the ride and not worry as he can trust me. Partnership in a relationship vs being overpowering in a conversation or “winning” will lead to one wanting to run away for safety.  We work better together in human relationships when we work as partners seeking trust and respect for one another. 

Seek the Fruit of Kindness

Over the years I have seen many ways people handle their horses both in training and in riding on trails. There are ones who have the “breaking” mentality where kindness is not present in the human. Training is a special unique relationship between horse and human. It’s asking, being patient, and being a partner. I have a special horse with a very unique relationship because it is based on being kind to one another. Human relationships respond in the same way. Kindness is one of the Fruits of the Spirit and there is a reason for that. It’s always well received and builds lasting relationships.

My first day with my new buddy…Bokoda Joe

Communication is Key to Relationships

Boy, when I don’t let my horse know where I am and sneak up on him disaster is at hand! A horse is a prey animal and is always nervous about a predator attacking them so when one sneaks up on a horse you will get what you deserve…a kick…a rear…or a blowout run! The same holds with my relationships with others. Being open with my thoughts and feelings especially in conflict is huge to understanding one another. It helps build the relationship to be stronger and overall healthier. Trust is key in any successful relationship…how do I know…I learned from my special horse!

Since I got Bokoda I have learned so much about relationships! Bokoda has indeed taught me many things. One thing for sure I am thankful for is his patience as it surely isn’t natural for a horse to trust a human. But his love for me is evident by the sweet response of faithfulness in every day! Especially in ministry! Thanks Bokoda we sure do have a special bond!

Faithful friend!

Peace in Christ and in all your relationships!

Love deeper, talk sweeter,

Lee and Bokoda

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Food, Healthy Eating, Ranch Life

Feeling Icky?

The temps are dropping really fast around this Minnesota state! We hit 1 above this morning and I was feeling a cold coming on. Drained from a weekend getaway with our son and being in wind and snow set me up for getting sick. PLUS, late nights and hotels. I needed to find something to make for not only myself but to keep in our freezer for a quick meal. When you’re not feeling well, it sure helps to have something you can heat up quickly and provides wonderful nutrients to fight the flu. The turmeric and black pepper help keep down inflammation and keep your body toasty as turmeric is a warming herb. The garlic and ginger help fight off the presence of bacterial or viral infections.

Found A Winner

I think you will find this soup tasty. Just look at the ingredients and you will see for yourself it is FULL of herbs and spices, plus veggies to help you feel better. Even if you’re not sick, it’s a good one to keep on hand. Let me know what you think or if you added something to improve it. Love it when we can help one another improve a recipe! Enjoy!

Ingredients: Spices I get from Starwest * (off to the right) so I always have FRESH herbs and spices. In a store, you never know how long they have been on the shelf. This goes for herbs too when I can’t grow them myself. If you have any herbs from your garden this will be an added benefit.

  • 3-4 scallions, chopped
  • 3 garlic cloves, diced
  • ginger to taste (I put in 1/2 tsp.)
  • 1/2 tsp. turmeric
  • 1/2 tsp. fresh black pepper
  • 1 tsp fresh rosemary
  • 1 tsp. sage
  • 1 tsp. thyme
  • 1 tsp basil (I added an additional sprinkle on top when serving)
  • 4 peeled, diced potatoes
  • 2 carrots, sliced
  • 2 zucchini, diced
  • kale
  • sea salt to taste

Instructions:

  1. The first 3 ingredients put into your Dutch oven with about a tablespoon of olive oil. Let them sauté until a nice aroma.
  2. Add carrots, zucchini, turmeric, black pepper, rosemary, sage, thyme basil, and salt.
  3. Bring to a boil
  4. Add potatoes, cover and let boil for 30 minutes.
  5. Add kale and simmer for additional 10 minutes
  6. You can add cooked hamburger or chicken. My man loves his meat!
  7. He also loves dumplings, which of course he added…what a guy!
YUMMY for the tummy and to help you fight the bug!

Hope you try it…I think you will find this an awesome recipe anytime of the year!

Love deeper, talk sweeter, and keep it natural when you can,

Lee

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Herb Basket, Living Naturally, Ranch Life, Thyme Out
 Why Make your own organic potting soil mix? This is such an easy thing to do and really is much healthier for you. Plus, it will save you a bit more money than going out and buying a premade bag of potting soil. Making your own organic potting soil will feel great and your seedlings and plants will thank you!  If you need some ideas for what to put your seedlings in you can go HERE.  If you’re new to getting started with seedlings, HERE are a few of our ranch tips. Things to know what a good potting mix will do:
  • * Will be firm enough to support the plant
  • * Contribute light enough to allow air and water to flow with minimal compaction
* Be free of weed seeds and potential pathogens Coconut Coir: In may potting mix recipes they call for peat moss, but since there are many debates regarding mining from peat bogs, I decided to use the coir instead. Coconut coir is a by-product of the coconut-processing industry and is ground up coconut husk fibers. How cool is that? It is wonderful for retaining water. I got mine in a brick form so you have to soak it in water before it is ready to use. If you like peat moss in your recipe, substitute it 1:1. Perlite: Perlite is a volcanic rock. It holds water and helps to aerate the soil and keep it from compacting. Some folks also use vermiculite or plain old course sand in place of Perlite in some potting soil recipes. Compost: LOVE this stuff. First, it is the soil you made from all those leftover scraps! Ours is filled with tea herbs so how wonderful this will be to use in my potting mix! Just make sure the compost is “finished’ or it will burn your plants or introduce weed seeds into your pots. Use the finest part of the compost you can get. I had to sift a bit to get out some chunks. DIY Potting Soil Recipe (the affiliate links helps our ranch ministry) A “part” can be anything you use for a measuring device. Like a cup, bucket, can, etc. All depends on how much you need to make. If your coir is in a block you will need to add water to it. I used my hands and worked it until it was really moist. Next, mix the coir and your compost. Add more water as it makes it easier to work with. I like it damp to easily work. Add your Perlite, stir it well and BAM…your ready to fill those planters! Congrats you little homesteader you! Let me know what you think! Send a picture or comment on how your seedlings did use your own organic potting soil recipe! God’s blessings as you plant HIS goodness, naturally! Love deeper, talk sweeter, Lee
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